Learn to not demand praise:
I was at the pharmacy. I had to walk there and I sat down to relax before picking up my prescriptions. There was a young man in line. He probably took great care with his appearance. His hair had a lot of product in it and mine was far from clean. I lowered my eyes to the floor. All he was hoping for was a compliment on being well dressed maybe a conversation as he waited in line. I got into line after there was a person behind him.
He triggered my insecurities with one word and I left the drug store muttering. My muttering didn’t stop when I arrived at take out place. All the way home I complained about how inaccurate that word was to describe me. I pointed out that I ministered to GLBT persons but I inherited the ministry from my husband. He once had a bisexual transgendered girlfriend and a bisexual mother. He took after his father. I went into high school knowing what I wasn’t but I was mislabeled constantly by bisexuals, rapists and the secular liberals who never understood me. I learned not to demand praise because I couldn’t get it. I don’t take compliments well so I rarely give them out. People with trauma issues rarely feel good enough to offer praise at all.
Call to action: Genuine Praise is better than demanded praise
– learn not to demand praise and perhaps one day the praise will come naturally
– praise is best when it comes out of the heart in a genuine manner
– only the optimistic praise others genuinely and that is the kind of praise you are trying to demand
– if I gave into your demands for praise, you would keep on trying to trigger praise in the same manner.
– learn not to demand praise and perhaps one day it will take you by surprise